Your way is OK
/As we all know, everyone has their own ways of doing things. And sometimes it is hard not to chime in to tell your own way - not because it is THE right way of doing it but because it is the way you know how to do it. It is almost like being the back seat driver. Unless the actual driver is not a “driving student”, in most of the cases, the driver knows their own limits and has different reflexes compared to the back seat driver. So it is much safer to let the driver drive as opposed to the back seat driver, because the driver is doing OK!
I feel like it can get very discouraging if you are the ONE doing it and everyone else chimes in. During those times, one thing that I try to tell myself is that my way is just another way of doing it - might not be the most efficient, pretty, fast or usual but it is a way. Otherwise, it is really easy to feel bad about yourself, to feel like all you do is wrong… Self confidence is the strongest shield that we can ever carry on us. The key is never to loose it or to get it damaged.
I have certainly been the one who “chimed in” before. If I ever made anyone feel like their way was incorrect, I truly apologize. Loved ones are mostly the easiest target to try to influence your way in. So in my case, my apologies should probably go mostly to Derek, for making it feel like his way was not correct. I am sure that it was indeed very correct…
It is rightly said, “habits die hard”. That saying goes both ways: 1. Someone who is doing something one way will continue to do it that way, no matter how much they will be influenced by others. 2. Someone who is doing something one way will have a hard time not to chime in to someone else doing the same thing another way. I believe that the key thing to remember, in these situations, is “respect”. As long as everyone respect’s each other’s ways, without a “but” then our strongest shield is intact, with no cracks… :)
Month of July has been a lot of “new” things for our family. With new things come testing the waters…. Therefore different ways emerge and respect takes over. It is really refreshing to be able to try things out for the first time in my own way without feeling like I keep failing. The support function works great when respect takes over the mind. It is also nice to sit back and watch how others tackle the “new” things. Sometimes silence can be the best education when least expected. :)
Their feet can hardly touch the pedals but they make it work - #selfconfidence
Now… that all being said, when it comes to our exercises, there is only one right form. How you get yourself into that right form is up to you. :) Let’s think about some simple challenges… Do you remember the wall squats from months ago and also the pushups? This month’s moves will be just those, as a pre-sleep challenge. How you get into the correct form is up to you, as long as you keep the correct form through out the moves. :)
Here are our moves of the month with the correct forms:
Wall Squat for 20 seconds - Knees bent at 90 degree angle with lower back against the wall. Knees stay right over ankles and in front of toes. Chest stays upright. Legs are hip width apart.
Pushups, just 2 times - back straight and butt down. The pushing up move comes from the bending of the elbows as opposed to pulsing the butt up and down. The beauty of a pushup is that it can be on knees or on toes. Or it can be performed elevated or parallel to the ground.
As you are holding the wall squat, just think about your day: trust yourself on how you do things and appreciate others on how they do things. And as you are doing your pushups, make sure that your “shield” is getting stronger and stronger because you can do IT!
Big high five for keeping your self confidence intact…
With his way of holding he caught and Released 5 fish
Her way was not the cleanest but she completed the task
